I’m a homo and why you need to know.

Dec 072011
 

So I’ve had or seen this argument twice in the last week:  If you’re gay keep it to yourself.

The first was a business twitter account (I’m not telling) who was commenting on the Evansville Sexual Orientation non-discrimination ordinance (http://goo.gl/1OWZJ). And the business asked why did anyone have to know about it?

The second was through a fraternal organization I’m affiliated with and the person basically said that the LGBT and Ally group was offensive and that you should keep being gay to yourself.

Both spoke out of basic ignorance and misunderstanding of why this is important. I’ve recently read some articles that have changed some of the ways I think (or at least have made me aware) about the instances of majority privilege. I’m a white, middle-class male so discrimination isn’t  something I had to deal with until I came out. (A little bullying in school for being different but wouldn’t really call that discrimination.)

I digress.

The point is why do you “need” to know I’m gay? (Yes these are generalizations…but close enough)

1) People generally assume everyone is heterosexual.

2) Heterosexuality is talked about constantly everywhere.

3) People don’t like different.

Number 1 is just part of life. The population is generally heterosexual. Not that big a deal.

Number 2 is where the problem creeps in. (I’m male and the above are male so if you’re female please switch to be appropriate gender.)

Do you talk about your wife, girlfriend, or dates with women you have been on?

You’re talking about your sexuality.

(I’d include kids but I know gays who’ve adopted so it only kinda counts.)

A friend figured out that I was gay before I came out because I never talked about dating. At all. Ever. Because if I did have to talk about dating I’d have had to talk about a guy…which means I’m not keeping my sexual orientation to myself. Now that I’m out I can openly talk about going on dates with whatever guy I happen to be seeing.

You “need” to know only because it’s what everyone talks about all the time: our sexual orientation.

I’ll talk about #3 later.

Why hello there

Dec 022011
 

So I haven’t blogged in some time.

I got bored with it. Then I tried to do it some and found I was just whining at having a bad day. Then I broke the system. Then I decided it wasn’t worth my while and spent all of my time on Twitter and Facebook. Now I’m at that point where I’d like to write again.

I’ve had Luke Says Moo since sophomore year of college and unfortunately I’ve hosed my backup archives. They’re thankfully sitting in a MySQL backup on my desktop. I’ve tried several different ways to try to import them into the server, but something’s not right. For the most part, we don’t need to see that right now. I was depressed more often then so it’s darker than I want to be right now. Anyway, one day I’ll find someone who can fix the issue and we’ll see about getting it up here.

I’ve been fucking around with this new WordPress since June and haven’t gotten any where. Decided to stop playing and do something.

I’ve had a few ideas about what content to put up here. I plan to keep it up for a little while…I’m no @rickyleepotts so don’t expect me to turn my blog into anything awesome, but you might be amused.

To close this boring bit – I recently read on Pookie’s blog (I wonder if she still doesn’t like me calling her Pookie…or if her husband minds) about 5/3/1 which is about exercise, but the boiled down version of what I got: it doesn’t matter if what you’re doing is perfect or if it changes regularly: just do it. (Isn’t that a marketing slogan?)

Anyway, decided to say to hell with getting a theme I love and to hell with coming up with good topics and ideas. I’m going to post as I feel like it and do my own thing.

So…hi there and please enjoy.

Hello World Again

Dec 012011
 

This is purely to make the first post. ;-) Hello there.